Becoming Bold

Let me remind you: You are indeed worthy and definitely deserve to have someone who loves only you. And I've seen countless examples of true love that have withstood the test of time. It does exist and it is great! One example is my own parents and the other is my in-laws. Both have been married over 40 years and counting. They've climbed lots of mountains and fallen into many valleys, but the lesson I learned in watching my own parents and listening to my in-laws is that sometimes love is as simple as committing to the commitment. What I mean is standing by the vows you made no matter how bad the circumstances may seem or get. I'm not going to lie, they will appear absolutely insurmountable, but as the adage goes, "This too shall pass." And when the great times swing back around again you'll be together to enjoy them! No one ever tells us that within the course of a marriage or a relationship, each person in the union falls in and out of love several times over. It's the norm! Understand love never fades or truly dies even though your anger has turned to rage. I'm sure you know at least one couple in which you see the love shining through, and you know their connection is real. You see it and you want that for yourself because it is wonderful, beautiful, and fulfilling in every possible way. Well, they've gone through some "stuff" to arrive at the place you see them at now. That means real true love is possible for you too! At the end of the day, and like everything else, love calls for a little faith. You've got to have faith that love is out there and that it will find you. Then, after you have it, you must be willing to weather the storms. Most times love sneaks up on us because dating can almost be described as making friends. One minute you're hanging out all the time, getting to know each other and then the next thing you know you're in love. Sometimes we instinctively sense a connection and know this is it—like my husband knew when he saw me: He knew I was The One. Don't be so afraid of your sudden feelings that you don't snatch the opportunity to say something before it slips away. I knew something was there when I first laid eyes on the man standing at the end of the hall who would become my husband. I said hi to him first and got the conversation going. On the flipside, there will be other times when love takes its time to grow, and then blossoms bigger and brighter over time. Love manifests in many different ways; be open to them all, but also be aware of the illusions that love can bring as well. It sounds like a paradox, but when the wrong person comes along and you know, I mean deep in your heart know that this individual is wrong for you, don't lie to yourself or choose to believe the illusion. Be courageous and move on. Be bold in knowing there is someone out there just right for you and that person wants to find you as well.