A Man's Mind

There are so many things that can contribute to this chapter, simply because I know that’s what you all (meaning women) are most concerned with. That is making sure that man comes home. Now what I mean by that is not literally making sure that man comes home but not having him want to be involved in inappropriate activities out- side of the home that will entice him not to want to come home to you and even possibly leave you. As we all know there is no such thing as a perfect woman or a perfect man but what makes a man say or tell you, you are perfect is because you meet his needs and you treat/talk to him like he is somebody. As I stated earlier those needs range pending, what that man’s requirements are. It can be anywhere from if that man wants a woman who is a cooker, clothes washer, sexual healer, motherly figure, provides the finances, eye candy, and spiritually involved. Now if your mans needs are one or some of these and you provide them to him please believe this alone doesn’t keep him coming home solely because you provide them. I know this is what you thought but I’m letting you know now there is more to it. There is one other major issue that goes along with previously stated needs, and that is your attitude/ the way you talk to him. Guaranteed your man will be more reluctant to come home to you dealing with your attitude then he would if you didn’t provide the needs he wants. I do understand men can get to you at times to get you upset but more likely than not he doesn’t do it purposely. No man especially, no man I know is going to put up with the attitude for too long. He’ll rather deal with a women who can talk to him and treat him well that don’t provide the needs, then deal with you on a consistent basis with the unnecessary treatment. Ladies you wonder why the man jeopardizes his relationship, the kids, and both of you alls lifestyle for someone else that you may feel is not on your level. It’s all in how you treat him as far as the way you interact with him. On the other hand if that man is a ass-whole regardless of what you do or how you treat him, I don’t understand why you are still there anyway. Any man that has respect for his woman won’t blatantly disrespect you in your face. Ladies while getting to know that man and even while dating him, if you take it to that level I suggest you learn that man. This is why the dating process must happen so that you as a woman and he as a man can see if you really want each other. One component to this is making sure sex is not the main motivation for coming together. Ladies, what I suggest you do is don’t just date a man because it sounds right or go through a date process with a man just because. Actually while getting to know and while dating LEARN that man. Speaking of learning that man, I’m speaking of learning his ways, his routine, his sexual drive, his mental state (way of thinking), his likes and dislikes, his mannerisms, learn his needs versus his wants, what he’s passionate about, his pet peeves, and last but certainly not least his current/short/long term goals.